PUTTING SOMEONE ELSE FIRST

Asking someone else how they are doing, and putting their needs before yours, showing loving-kindness not selfishness, letting someone else who is needier be taken care of before you. Stepping out of line and letting a disabled individual go ahead of you first, or getting up out of your chair and letting an elderly person who uses a cane to sit down in that chair instead of you.

Having extra money and donating it to a cause that would help someone else's needs and not your own. Letting someone tell their story before yours. Listening hard to someone else and encouraging them to keep talking to tell you all the details, so they feel they have support and have meaning in their life because someone else cares.

Not always talking about yourself and your own needs and what you do and think, but instead letting someone else's needs go first and have their problems solved first before yours. Not expecting everyone to jump and to care for you when actually their problems are worse than yours and so need primary attention from you.

Offering help to those who need it, filling their bowl full of food before yours, making sure they are drinking enough and are not thirsty, filling their cups too, as you fill yours.

Reassuring someone that their needs will be met, and that you will do all you can to meet their needs. To ask someone else how they are feeling and what they are doing. To try to be a nurturer instead of always being the one who asks for nurturing from others for yourself.

Being generous, smiling cheerfully at someone before they smile at you. Getting a smile in return because of your kindness and letting this smile nurture you, as you made someone else's day, you gave to another and so can be happy that you fulfilled someone's desires.

In The Psalms, it says "G-d will fill all of your heart's desires." As you fill the desires of those around you, G-d fills your desires, as you see happiness spreading like a bee who pollenates one flower after the other, and the result is a beautiful blossom and pure honey to sweeten your day.